Divorce Recovery

A Seminar for Divorced and
Separated Persons of All Ages

Upcoming Dates: September 20 - October 25, 2018, 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. 

St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church
600 St. Andrews Road, Newport Beach, CA 92663
949.610.1701 phone
949.631.3689 fax


Last year approximately 25,000 people in Orange County experienced the dissolution of their marriage. The failure rate for first marriages continues to be about 50%, while 65% of second marriages end in divorce. Thousands of people in our community have been deeply affected by the tragedy of divorce.

Jim Smoke, whose book we will be using in the Workshop, has said, “You can go through a divorce or you can grow through it.” No matter how close or distant the divorce experience is for you, you’ll find both the lecture topics as well as the support and understanding of others dealing with similar issues to be tremendously helpful in making one of life’s most difficult adjustments. These sessions are designed for those who are dealing with the finality of a terminated marriage, rather than the possibility of reconciliation.


Dr. John Fry has attended St. Andrew's Presbyterian Church for almost 30 years and has served as an elder. He is a psychologist who's been in private practice in Orange County for over 30 years. He works with men, women, teenagers, children, singles and married couples. He has given over 400 seminars on stress management to, among others, IBM, NBC, Farmers Insurance, the US Navy, the Los Angeles Times, and the faculties of Fuller Theological Seminary.

John attended the workshop, created by Dr. Bill Flanagan, for himself while going through a divorce in 1987. Afterwards, he volunteered as a small group facilitator for the next 14 workshops. In September of 2009, John assumed the role of speaker of the Divorce Recovery Workshop. John integrates information from psychological research, his own experience of divorce, and the experiences of working with scores of people in his private practice who are attempting to heal and grow through their own divorces.


Is This Really Happening to Me? 
The Three Stages of the Divorce Experience


Assuming New Responsibilities
Planning for Yourself and Your Future


Coping with Your Ex-spouse
A Relational Reality that Continues to Exist


For parents of dependent children: Helping Your Child Through Your Divorce
For Non-Parents: Coping Skills for the Stress of Divorce


Finding and Experiencing Forgiveness
Overcoming Hate and Hurt


Thinking About New Relationships
Relating, Dating, and New Connections


Parent must be registered for the Workshop.


Parent need NOT be registered for the Workshop.


$40.00 pre-registration received before the Workshop
$50.00 registration at the door
Fee includes Jim Smoke's book, Growing Through Divorce, and a meal on night 6 to all attendees and their children and teens.


$25.00 pre-registration
$30.00 at the door
(no book included)

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FREE childcare for infants through sixth graders is available each evening of the Workshop. Please call 949.610.1701 to make childcare reservations.

New Directions

April 5 - 26, 2018

A four-week series of independent seminars focused on moving forward after life-changing events or circumstances. Geared to be for singles of all ages. $5 donation.

April 5 | "In Living Color" by Joy DeGruccio, B.S., M.A., CPhT
We have our natural mode of communication and patterns of behavior. The way we communicate and interact with others can make or break friendships, relationships, morale, trust, and leadership. Learning to identify and appreciate different communication styles not only in ourselves but in others will lead to greater understanding and success in life. Tools for self-discovery will be shared as we explore and examine 4 communication styles and the resulting behavior patterns.

April 12 | "The Best of Dating 101" by Chrissy Follis, LMFT
Are you nervous about navigating the dating scene? Are you wanting to try Internet dating but the idea of setting up your online profile leaves you feeling overwhelmed? Do you feel discouraged about your relationship future? We will be answering all of these questions and more as we discuss ways to be emotionally ready to date, give you tools to feel confident dating, as well as some practical ways to write profiles in a way to attract quality people.

April 19 | "Building Healthy Relationships" by Mike Marino, PhD
Healthy relationships don't just happen. Mike Marino will address some of the common mistakes people make when seeking to connect at a deeper, more intimate level. Setting clear emotional boundaries, speaking with an adult voice, and learning to be an active listener will help you feel seen, heard, and valued.
If your relationships feel too "one-sided" or perhaps you have no close relationships at all, this presentation will help you discover a path to building authentic, helpful connections with family, friends, community, and coworkers.

April 26 | "For the Love of Money" by Megan M. Stirrat
Suddenly single? Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Certified Financial Planner and Wealth Management Advisor, Megan Stirrat, specializes in helping people address their changing and complex financial picture as they go through significant life transitions. Megan has specialized training in the financial issues of divorce through the “Institute for Divorce of Financial Analysts”. She is also a member of the Family Law Section of the Orange County Bar Association, although she does not provide legal advice. Topics will include: What now? How much can 1 afford to live on? Can I afford to keep my house? Do I need to go back to work? How should I invest my portion of the divorce settlement? How long will my money last?

Questions? Email Casey Luck, caseyl@sapres.org.

CLICK HERE for more info on New Directions.


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